This isn’t a competition. It’s a collaboration.
This isn’t a competition. It’s a collaboration.
Look, I don't mean to litter this site with High Fidelity references (exhibit A and exhibit B), but I'd be remiss not to include a "what really matters is what you like, not what you are like" quote GIF on the same page where I aim to draw your attention to a Q&A series where people are asked what they like. I mean…
For those not already familiar, HIGHLY RECOMMENDED W/ is a re-occurring blog feature where the same 5 questions are sent to different people from both my irl and url worlds—those two alternate universes that sometimes feel like one when you do a lot of communicating via blog. The questions in question cover the full range of important life categories one could ever hope to receive an on the spot recommendation in.
I am, of course, talking about: Music, TV/Film, Books, The Internet and—to make sure all bases are covered—Anything.
And oh look, here comes some HIGHLY RECOMMENDED’s right now…
“Get a bird. They are lowkey terrible pets. Impossible to please. Messy. Noisy. But so great. And so pretty! And stupid!”
“Hug your friends hello and goodbye. Life is super fragile and honestly pretty wasted in general. We should be spending a lot more time telling each other "I love You". Everyday there are people that change my life for the better and I want them to know that.”
“We live in a world in which almost everyone expects us to act like a machine and it’s so beautiful to actually be aware that we’ll never reach that because we’re made of other stuff, human stuff!”
“There are four times a year when the seasons change and you can feel the very specific sensation of being reminded how different things can be by mowed grass smell. Get coffee with your friends and walk there (or more likely drive with the windows down). Try to remember the casual joy the universe is handing out!”
“Bathing and reading Molly Young’s recommendation for bathing and Kneipp bath oils before bathing.”
“I say quit trying so hard to get people to like you. Trying to befriend the people who don't want to be your friend is draining. Focus on people who make you feel welcomed. I promise it will make you feel much better in the long run.”
“If you live near any mountain rivers, go find a safe place to cold plunge in them. i moved to the Appalachian mountains this year and spending time submerged in icy cold streams has become my new favorite pastime.”
“I’ve been playing around with that weird state right before I wake up in the morning, when I start stirring and coming out of deep sleep. I’ll focus on feelings of universal wholeness or “imagine” the sensation of a enveloping cosmic love.
“Go for a walk every day, even if it's only 15 minutes. No phone, no music, no podcast, find a nearby green space if you can, just walk and breathe and listen and exist.”
“Apart from journaling which is my most obvious answer… my best recommendation is to subscribe for language learning apps! It’s such a good feeling when you aren’t sure what to do with yourself to exercise your brain in that way, language is so mysterious and beautiful.”
“We should all be writing and reading poetry, daily. You should also be affectionate with your friend's and tell them what you appreciate about them. I also like talking to strangers and feel like it's so important to just strike up conversations with people from different backgrounds. Taking mushrooms is good too.”
“My wife Amy has encouraged the practice of either listing 5 things I’m grateful for, or asking what the rose and thorn of each day is. I think any sort of mindfulness exercise would be what I suggest to folks in these high speed times.”
“I guess makin' stuff. Journaling, memes, songs, whatever. And sharing it. I'm as addicted to my phone as the next person my age, but I have more fun sharing stuff than I ever did just scrolling.”
“Keep doing your art. Share it with the world. Even if you're not making a living from it. Most of us aren't. Stay inspired. It's important.”
“Sounds simple but most people are walking around totally dehydrated. We drink sweet, salty, caffeinated, alcoholic drinks without question, but water is always like, meh. Iʼm making an effort of drinking more water every day and it helps me feel better in my mind and body.”
“I spend way too much time on chess.com. I’ve played thousands of 3 minute blitz games against people from all over the world since the pandemic started.”
“Take a month off whatever your vice or choice is. The mental/physical reset and exercise in discipline is wonderful.”
“I think I'm speaking to myself more than everyone else, but stop worrying. Control the things that you can, but don't let the world get you down. There's still hope, and it's important to hold on to that hope.”
“I’m usually more interested in non-fiction and prefer to read about topics online, there's so much information. I think I’d just recommend finding a topic you’re interested in every week and scheduling 1hr a week to dive in.”
“Give making music a try, even if it isn't immediately "good" and even if you never show it to anyone.”
“Meditation. I used to have to listen to something to fall asleep, but now I've finally learned to let go of my insane thoughts and just drift off.”
“Let me tell you to pick up that instrument you’ve always had the desire to learn to play. For some reason you think you can’t do it. You can! It’s fun.”
“Silent meditation for as short as 5 minutes or as long as wished. Simply sitting in silence and following/noticing your breath. It can be a game changer of how to navigate the daily busy life.”
“Do not argue with people on social media. Do not get your news from social media. In fact, turn off the news for a while. If something is truly worth immediately knowing, you will find out rather quickly from those around you.”
“Move to another country (preferably one that uses a different primary language than your own) for an extended amount of time. Sounds crazy, I know! But the benefits and life-enriching possibilities are endless. And it may be more do-able than you think.”
“We loved watching it in the original French, with subtitles so that we could feel our French was improving. You’ll start talking around the breakfast table in hushed French accents as if you are spies.”
“I also highly recommend trying out baking, it's a stress reliever for me and it makes the house smell great.”
“Wake up early. Whether it’s to be productive and crank out work or relax outside with a cup of coffee, for me an extra waking hour or two in the morning is essential to making the rest of the day feel a bit more peaceful.”
You'll be hard pressed not to find at least one solid recommendation from each Q&A no matter who you are, but usually you’ll find more than a few little treasures to take back to make your own personal orbit a little bit better for a little bit. And there’s good odds you’ll also discover a few recommenders functioning on a similar wave length as yourself—and wouldn’t you know it—they’re putting recommendable stuff out into the universe too.
“I am late to Yoga, but it sure has been helpful. You don’t have to be good at it and you don’t have to do more than a few minutes to feel better.”
“This is like a reach-through-the-mirror-and-emerge-in-a-pool-of-clear-water-in-a-snow-covered-alternate-universe-style vibe. This is like if the elves in the Lord of The Rings made folk songs with bust-your-shit-open beats.”
“Stretch! You need to stretch. I'm 32 and my back reminds me every day. Stretch when you wake up. Stretch before you go to sleep. Stretch stretch stretch.”
“It feels like the internet needs a restart in some way. It's sad that all good websites turn to crap because of new owners coming in with bad ideas.”
“Find your own little rituals and totems. I've started embroidering and I find it good to have an activity that I can find meditative and calming.”
“I’m not one to preach about what one should or should not do, but, for me, cycling daily is my thing. Across the bridge and around Stanley Park or a fuller 40k ride always sets my mind straight.”
“If you're ever at a restaurant in a state or country that has a coastline and they have grilled octopus, get it. I know, it's gonna be like 30 bucks, it probably came from farther away than you'd like to think about, and it's gonna be smaller than you expect, but man it's the most delicious meal ever.”
“I’ve become an audiobook guy. It’s not for everyone, but some of us listen faster than they read lol. If you haven’t tried it out, give it a shot. It’s been a game changer for me.”
"Everything is subjective, nothing is superior, nothing is inferior, we all just are...everything just is."
“I also just generally find myself being reminded that making things is always what makes me happy. Sometimes I lose my way and get caught up in life’s distractions, but as soon as I return to making something (however big or small), everyday I realize that it’s what makes me the most happy.”
“Do something for someone else every day. It’s something I need to do more of, so maybe I’m saying it as a reminder to myself.”
“Visit your local library. They’re still around and have a lot to offer. There’s a great library where I live. They often have holds rooms or other ways to get materials to cardholders, which is nice if a person feels uncomfortable spending too much time in a public space.”
“I think more people should talk on the phone to their loved ones more often. If you can, make that call you keep forgetting to make. It will probably make somebody’s day.”
“I have become a fermenting nut since the pandemic, and I have a small garden and things are just starting to come to fruition right now, so as well as enjoying fresh from the ground, I ferment... I had no idea it was so easy and cheap ... and the experimentation possibilities are limitless.”
“I think everyone should learn to care for something, a plant, a pet, or another human being.. something to help you look outside yourself and get perspective on your placement in life.”
“Go metal detecting by yourself. Don't bring kids or partners or relatives. It’s fun and sometimes you find a treasure.”
“Listening, reading, looking at stuff, even when it’s not related to your practice/your approach, is crucial in nourishing a singular creative process. We are largely made of the relations and the inclinations that have moved us in the course of our trajectory, so better be open and constantly search for great connections.”
“Develop any skill you’ve always wished you had, be it learning a language, an instrument, getting fit, drawing or painting, it doesn’t really matter. Just make sure you really work at it.”
“I would say find an instrument you like to interact with and spend a little time with it as often as you feel like it. I mean, hell, get yourself a kazoo and hum on that sucker in the car on the way to work. We should all be remembering to have fun, while we still can.”
“We can now learn how to change our oil, or code, or play guitar for (almost)free and build community far and wide. It allows anyone to be seen for making comedy videos, or showcasing their music to a massive audience, or spreading their personal experiences and helping others empathize. It can really be used to bring humanity together... or tear us apart.”
“As a Casio aficionado, I highly recommend this sales video from 1987. Using a variety of poignant metaphors, it explains my favorite cutting edge features. The video is a stunning example of customer service and receives bonus points for slick costuming and bold interior design choices.”
“Go to bandcamp.com. Have a look around. Find some music you like. Buy the music. Revel in the fact that you are doing your small bit to support some original music.”
“Everyone should sit down and meditate (focus on their breath) for 20 minutes a day. It relieves stress and also makes your mind more powerful when you go to focus on something.”
“If you see yourself creating something - art, cooking, music, writing, acting, dancing - I would suggest (to those who are not faint of heart) that doing a little bit daily is very helpful and incredibly empowering.”
“I'd have to say driving slower .. not crazy slow but not speeding around like assholes. It's safer for everyone and will lower stress levels. Also.. microdosing psilocybin.”
And since the things people keep up on the top shelf of life are made of the kind of quality that doesn't come with expiry dates, you can spend hours unearthing gem after gem from this long-running little series that asks HI54-recommended folks what they recommend themselves. To be honest, you've stumbled on a real gold mine of clickable things here.
So either go start filling your metaphorical pockets with one of the more recent HIGHLY RECOMMENDED’s featured above OR just go start flipping through them all, one after another, over on the blahg.
Or you could also have a browse through the archives that have been created for all the music recommendations (aka a big, ongoing Spotify playlist), all the movie/tv recommendations (aka a big, ongoing IMDB list), all the ‘just the film’ recommendations (aka a big, ongoing Letterboxd list), and/or all the book recommendations (aka a big, ongoing Goodreads list).
You might even say that doing so is… highly recommended (eh? eh?).
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